Mutual dependence- a way of life.

My 3 year old son has learnt to ignore you if you are impolite to him.

Today I ordered him to bring a bottle of water which was kept for drinking on a table but he did not care a fig about my request. He did not give an ear to my words. He completely turned a deaf ear. He behaved so because my voice was authoritative and a little bit stern.

I wanted him to respond to my words. But I failed. I told him that I would not talk to him if he did not obey my words. He accepted my challenge and half an hour we did not talk to each other. Now he came to me and asked me to take to the washroom because he needed to pee. I deliberately did not respond to him. I wanted to see his reaction. He was dumb found for some time and then in a flash he went to bring the bottle of water and offered me to drink water. But I turned my face away from him and showed my resentment.

This was a moment when for the first time my son understood that mutual dependence was a way of life and any imbalance in it affects both the parties. With the understanding came a solution and realization. To my utter surprise the young one stood straight before me, held his ears with his hands apologetically and lisped the words, “Bapa Chorri”. (Bapa = Odia equivalent of Dad, Chorri= Sorry as spoken by my young son.)

There was a happy reconciliation and I carried my son in my arms to the washroom.

Experiencing Phailin

It was the last working day and I was ready to set out on Puja Vacation. I went to the office to obtain my Headquarters leaving permission. But I was denied.

That day I stayed and next day I was permitted to set off. However, I could not get a bus ticket. During this time of the years the home-ward rush of all the service-holders raise the demand for bus tickets to the highest peak. I roamed in the small market seeking a solution to my problem. I saw a white Indica with the bonnets open. Perhaps the driver had left it open to quicken the engine’s cooling process. I had information that the car will go to Bhubaneswar. I waited for the driver. A lean and lanky boy having a dark complexion and red eyes appeared before me. I knew from his appearance that he had not slept for a night. Another 3 boys also joined and we all started our journey.

3 days before the meteorological department had forecast about a devastating super cyclone which was likely to hit the next day at Gopalpur. So our journey was a race against the approaching cyclone. We had figured that we would reach safely before the cyclone hit the land. Our confidence knew no bounds. I added more confidence to the group by sparing myself as another stand-by driver.

I frequently travel to Phulbani via Rayagada, Muniguda, Tumudibandh and Baliguda. Both on bike and by car I have often covered the distance but when it comes to go Berhampur I am not sure about the route. All my travel mates were also new to the route.

By 11pm we reached Rayagada and had our dinner. I paid the bill. The sky was cloudy and it was raining intermittently and lightly. The rain seemed no threatening. Now we drove up to Gumuda. At a cross road a prominent sign board instructed not to use the road as the bridge is broken. Now the can of worms was opened. We found none to guide us. I resorted to GPS of my mobile and followed the course. The more we depended on the gadget, the more confused we became. A garage owner was seen working in the late night and he gave us an idea about the route. We followed the course as per his description and in the mid night we found ourselves meandering through very slender and rough roads. Now the car climbed a mountainous path. It was too dangerous and the car stalled a number of times. We got down from the vehicle and walked away about 4 kilometres and the driver slowly drove the car behind us throughout the 4 kilometres. The walk through the hills in car’s head light when the weather is windy and rainy will be never forgotten.

We managed to catch the tar road by the morning. Clouds were raging in the sky and the prelude of Phyline was seen. We had to cover another 130 kilometres. It was forecast that in the evening the cyclone would hit Gopalpur. I was now a little tense because the car was giving a lot of trouble. It used to stop at every 4 or 5 kilometres. Before we could reach Digapahandi the vehicle refused to start anymore.  At that time it was raining cats and dogs. I thought enough is enough. I came out of the car. It was raining heavily. I remembered some movie scenes where the characters get involved in major actions in such rain. I was now completely wet. I signalled an auto-rickshaw. And I left the car there with other members to bring help for them. I had to hire a new vehicle at Digapahandi. Most drivers were reluctant to move in the cyclonic weather but one young man braved and came forward to our rescue. Money does not matter in such situations.

Now the wind had gained more strength. The vehicle used to feel the pressure. However, we reached at Berhampur. When the driver of the new vehicle took me to my cousin’s home I saw a tree laying flat on the road. The vehicle had to return from that point. I got down from the vehicle and holding my bag tightly ran for the house. The wind blow shattered my balance 3 or 4 times and I was about to fall down. At last I reached at the gates and shouted for my cousin.

Just after 2 hours the devastation began and till today i.e. 23^rd Oct, 2013, Berhampur is in darkness without power supply. I have attached few photographs taken during the time.            

Doses of healthy living

The greatest damage you can bring to yourself is by breaking the trust of others in you.

If you are trusted, you are the most successful person on earth. Be trust-worthy and value your words. You cannot be trust-worthy if you are gripped by selfishness. People unknowingly respect the person who is selfless and thinks impartially. Selflessness builds a great amount of trust. Be ready to sacrifice the little things in life for the greatest virtue of trust and self-worth.

Never divulge the secret of someone if that is harmful to him/her. And never use the secrets of someone as a weapon to harm or bend him/her. A one-time win will rob you of a life-long win. Do not go for short term benefits.   

It is essential in life to make People believe that you are impartial, sincere, truthful, honest and a man of words. It needs a little more sacrifice and a little more kindness of heart. Go for it.

Do not simply use words to construct your Self-image. You may fall in the ill-habit of Self-praise. Do not speak in words, speak in your actions. Words work on the surface but actions sow seeds in the soul. Work hard on what you want to be.     

Often we speak high of ourselves and expect others to believe so. But people do not go with words.  People unconsciously evaluate your actions and draw their opinions of you. So speak through your acts and deeds.  Think and do what you want to be. And build a concrete self image by your actions.

Many times you may not get the expected results instantly but constantly sending out the message of your true self-worth by your actions in the desired direction will one day land you on success. Have patience and stride on.

On the eve of Ganesh Chaturthi

Falsehood overpowers

And dark clouds of inhumanity shrouds

Selfishness benumbs the heart

Kindness becomes lost art

The earth smoulders in wars

Deaths, causalities, bruises and scars

Knock the doors, the economy staggers  

And the Beggars, helpless women cry together

The wails and the moans means nothing

Because the government is sleeping

Sleeping apathetically with doses of deception

Under the thick blankets of corruption

Ah we are all the believers!

We will dance happily forgetting all woes

Shouting GANAPATI BABA MOURYA

Strongly believing GAJARAJA’S divine Formula. 

A Rat-Hit Husband

It seems that a big load of heavy iron is on my head and I cannot think anymore. Because my wife told I have to make a choice either to stay with her or to stay with the mice in my house. I mean if I fail to de-mouse my house, she may take the drastic step to abandon me in the rat infested house leaving me to my fate.

Now I am helpless. I do not know how to combat the battalion of these mighty mice. They seem all-powerful. My surroundings have made them so.

My courtyard ends at a rice field and many unidentified plants have grown in the near vicinity. All of these provide ample Geo-strategic advantages to these mischievous creatures. With the approach of night they come into my house to shatter my sleep and now my marital life.

I am so disastrously rat-hit but I do not resort to Rat-Kill (rat-poison) or rat-traps. I do not know whether I am impotent to declare a crusade against them or I am more Jesus-like who died on the cross with the famous words, “"Father, forgive them, for they do not know what they are doing."